After a year of the pandemic, most people are looking for more sex like this.
After a pandemic year that saw a real dip in dating new people and flirting across bars, people are craving sex more than ever. As the weather gets warmer and more Americans get vaccinated, we're likely to see a lot of residual desire spilling over from the social distancing drought. According to a recent survey, the majority of Americans are looking for one kind of sexual experience in particular.
According to a survey, 73 percent of people wish they had more spontaneous sex.
In response to a survey conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Foria, 73 percent of people said they wish they had more spontaneous sex. While Psychology Today refers to spontaneous sex as "the gold standard in love-making," it can be hard to come by. Whether spontaneous sex to you means sleeping with someone after a great first date or having sex with your spouse without planning it ahead of time, it's not always easy to find time for these things. Between work, wellness, maintaining a social life, and an ongoing pandemic, spontaneity in your sex life may not be the easiest thing to achieve.
Spontaneous sex is good for your relationship, experts say.
"There is something incredibly sexy about sex that's straight from the source," sex educator and relationship expert Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, told Fox News. "Spontaneous sex has been hailed for not only grabbing a lover's interest but maintaining it. It spikes a relationship's lust factor, making lovemaking more exciting. Plus, when needed, it can get lovers out of a slump." After the worldwide slump of the COVID pandemic, it's no surprise that people are seeking some spice in their sex lives.
Scheduled sex can still have an air of spontaneity.
While dropping everything to engage with your partner in the moment without prior planning is the ultimate form of spontaneous sex, not everyone can achieve this. If you and your partner are busy and need to schedule sex, you can still give it a bit of a spontaneous edge. Healthline suggests that not getting specific about what you plan to do beforehand can help keep an element of surprise in scheduled sex. "Lean into the anticipation by dropping hints of what you have in mind for your time together, but leave things open for anything that feels good in the moment," Healthline recommends.
Anxiety impedes spontaneous sex.
The survey found that 60 percent of people confessed to being too "in their head" about sex to enjoy new things the first time they try them out. While nearly 75 percent of people crave spontaneity, many people end up too in their head to enjoy spontaneous acts during sex. Stress of any kind can impact sex negatively, whether it's related to your performance in the bedroom or what's going on in the world at large."Heightened stress impacts your nervous system, and your body will enter fight, flight, or freeze mode. Your nervous system communicates to your body that survival is the priority, and sex and libido are deprioritized on a biological level," Kiana Reeves, somatic sex educator and Foria's Chief Brand Officer, said in a write-up of the survey. "Stress levels can also impact your level of arousal, as well as lubrication, desire, and more, so addressing stress levels first is key." She noted that while stress impedes sex, sex can actually help alleviate stress. "Pleasure helps reduce stress and promotes wellbeing," Reeves added.
Allie Hogan
